Helping the Hubs

Recently the Hubs had a mini melt down.  He was basically feeling overwhelmed at work and unloaded a ton of frustration at me.  And I realized that he needed my help, in a different way that I thought he needed.

I read a lot of blogs & articles and listened to many podcasts several months ago on how to be a better wife & helpmate to a husband who is also a pastor.  Everything was about taking care of him at home: his health, his eating, his sexual, uh-hhmm physical (because pastor's don't have sex; that's sinful) needs, and ministering to him.  And so I tried doing what was suggested.  I've been intentional with the meals we eat, listening when he needs to talk, and making sure his physical needs are met.

As it turns out, this isn't necessarily what he needed from me.  He does need me to do these things for him, but not to the extreme extent I was going.

The biggest thing he needs from me is help with the administration part of his job.  The Hubs is terrible at this and I am great at it.  So we figured out how I could best help him with this stuff.  I'm going to help him plan events, make flyers & registration forms for trips, and other administrative stuff that tends to suck the life out of him.

I have learned that taking ideas from others is a great thing, but you always have to adjust them to you & your situation.  It won't fit if it's not tailored for you and your needs (just like your favorite jeans).  :)